again, easy to say, hard to do.

what does that actually look like moment to moment? what do people do differently between those that do and those that don’t succeed in this? how can you teach something you don’t know because no one taught you?

what does an empathy lesson look like?

it’s a hard problem and we really do need to figure out some specifics if we want to make any real progress.

ok ok ok, i have a theory on where her head was at.

i think it might have been about current messaging around “stop teaching girls is their job to avoid being sexually assaulted and start teaching boys that it’s not ok to do”.

I think in all honestly part of the reason we ended up in this paradigm is because parents generally try to teach what they know. for the most part, in the past men weren’t really aware of how common rape was, or didn’t care. men probably didn’t see it as a thing to talk to their girls about. it was also something they likely had no relevant experience in teaching about. so men didn’t see it a important to teach anything about it to girls. and it didn’t seem likely to negatively affect their son… women on the other hand clearly saw the need to prepare young girls for this reality. so they teach what they know. what little that can do from their perspective with their power. moms default to imparting the defense mechanisms they have built to survive in this terrible state of affairs.

so, my thought is that this is a mother trying to teach her son not to be a predator. but she doesn’t even know what predators think to make them do that. she has no idea what to say that might make her son not do something that she doesn’t understand and doesn’t know if her son has or ever will feel those things. it’s a hard problem. it’s easy to say that we need to put the onus on men to not be predators, but how do we turn that into reality without sounding like this? what does a parent actually say to a young boy that will carry more weight than “don’t do that”.

what do you mean pairing? what kind of os do you plan to put on the mini pc? the biggest hurdle is going to be hdcp compliance with any legal streaming service. something like kodi on the other hand, just works like any other pc? a mini pc is just that. a mini pc. there’s nearly infinite method to connect streaming services to a pc. I have a Plex server, but it doesn’t play nice with all content, so honestly, i usually just use my network storage and pull things straight from the file browser. load them into media player classic with madvr.

I know there’s newer systems that do fancier things, but I’m content. I need to upgrade my nas to be better able to transcode x265 video streams. that’s s big drawback on Plex for me. my biggest use case is watching things virtually with friends. it’s how i watch movies with people. my server can current encode a single x265 video stream pretty well, but the second it has more than one client it chugs. forget it if 4 people want a 4k movie. I would need a crazy beefy rig to run that. it also won’t convert hdr without paying. most of my friends aren’t trying to watch on an hdr screen.

so, we’re back to me streaming via discord screenshare. it’s not the best, but at least i don’t need to keep a separate 4k hdr copy of movie for myself and a 1080p x264 copy for Plex that way. mad vr will even handle the hdr conversion for me when I stream.

it works well enough, though I’m open to suggestions as well. it needs to be easy for the clients to use. it can be hard for me, that’s fine, but jellyfin is too much for most of my friends and family. Plex is already pushing it.

there just isn’t the money in that kind of product anymore. studio porn in general isn’t doing great. especially among younger viewers.

I worked for hustler broadcast for a bit, so i can confidently say that you’re not wrong. we would still occasionally air some of those older more serious movies, but basically anything since 2000 has been more on the goofy side. that said, there are some genuinely funny ones out there. they aren’t very good as porn, but they were my favorites. like there was one where Trump and Kim jong un captured Hilary Clinton in North Korea and they all had sex. the trump and the Kim were terrible, but the Hilary genuinely kind of looked the part, if Hillary Clinton had massive fake boobs. there was an Obama one from 2008 that was incredibly racist. it basically had Obama coming into the White House and revealing that he was actually a big bad gangster rapper, or whatever, here to fuck all your white bitches. I think there were three of those.

honestly, there’s some high concept only fans out there if you’re willing to pay. I know of one couple that does a legit travel blog with travel sex interludes. you might also find enjoyment in erotic literature if you haven’t given that much of a shot. the Internet stuff of very different from the published stuff, maybe give them both a shot?

all of this kind of comes together to really get in the way of high concept studio porn. women with intelligence, self respect, talent, or real ambition don’t go into studio porn. it’s the toxic old way to get into porn. anyone that might have been good enough to actually perform well in those movies either goes for softcore stuff that they can claim isn’t porn, or will self start on onlyfans. honestly, i bet we’ll start to see more of that kind of content come out of the new porn media world. these days we’re seeing more and more collectives and small companies operate through onlyfans. for better and worse. an optimistic take from someone that has worked on the back end of that industry for you is that these companies might be perfect for that. especially the ones that operate more like streamer houses. where it’s just a co-op of creators and maybe a little suuport staff or a manager. that’s the kind of situation i think we’ll start seeing low budget high concept porn with better production than it used to have because it’s easier to be better for cheaper these days.

this is America, half this country gets a boner when they think about shooting someone and being praised for it. all cops started this way and so they don’t feel bad when the enable vigilante justice in others. they all think that shit’s cool as hell anyway

i currently have one of the few municipal Internet plans in the United States.

best Internet I’ve ever had. gigabit symmetric fiber for a flat $60/mo. no fees, no outages, no data caps.

during the one outage i experienced in the three years I’ve had them i was quickly able to find multiple places to see status updates about the hardware issue they had and it was fixed in under an hour.

they also have a 2.5 gig and a 10 gig option for reasonable prices. I don’t think many other companies even offer anything above 1 gig outside of business packages.

it will be difficult for me to move anywhere else. with the work that i do this has been life-changing. come to Longmont Colorado, we have good Internet, amazing mountain sunsets, and lots of tacos.

i love my government Internet. it’s one of the biggest things keeping me here.

yeah funny enough, this is more of a recent thing. it’s still spreading at the moment. isps over here just kind of got it in their head that they could make extra money with this one day.

most forums had bump rules. any new comment jumped a post back to the top, like 4chan.

but then there’s no sorting to it all and it functions on bumps like 4chan. not necessarily a better system.

the real reason is that 90% of users on any social media site only lurk. the users that post tend to post a lot. these are just natural things that work out that way due to human nature. confidence and extroversion are some of the last things to make it to niche social media.

obviously a news show isn’t going to feel the same rewatching it. that’s not the point lol.

that would be like saying it’s dumb to preserve newspapers in libraries because it’s not going to feel as good rereading the “Hitler is dead” headline. people don’t look at old news to have a good time.

boy was it silly of us to preserve that kind of thing and it totally never comes in handy/s

that’s not even what people are upset about anyway. comedy Central mostly makes entertainment programming that isn’t news based and can still be enjoyed whenever. believe it or not, comedy Central has a lot of content that will stand the test of time. especially when looking at their stand-up catalogue.

this is the destruction of a library. a digital one, but a library none the less. that’s what people are mad about.

but you’re right. we should just dump all of our old movies and shows. they’re worthless moldy junk anyway… 🙄

ooh yeah, a good tooltip on mouseover would be perfect.

there is quite a bit of granularity to the options these days if you haven’t tried it in a bit. I was able to make it work more or less exactly how i wanted.

yeah, I’ve got it set to off by default. i used it almost like a spoiler tag. click the button to see the answer to “THIS AMAZING DEVICE DOES WHAT???”

honestly, I always feel so much more part of the conversation here. on Reddit, unless you time it just right and browse young posts, chances are your comment will never be seen. on here you’ll be one of 50 top level comments at most. and that’s only the biggest threads. it would be nice to see more activity on more threads, but often when i comment on something with no comments it’s enough to start the conversation.

almost none of my comments here get ignored, and the conversations that come out of them feel better. unless it’s about Linux. you people are insane and unapproachable when it comes to operating systems. not because you’re wrong, you’re just… a lot.

eh, as a photographer that works weddings, any wedding without a planner is hell for me. i might actually just say no if that’s the case.

if you hire people to work it you should have a person who can be their go to while you are getting married.

if you go for an event like you describe people will be unhappy at the lack of food and leave after not long. if that’s what you want, good for you. go for it. if you want people to stick around and have a good time, you need to feed them. that’s expensive, even if you somehow make it all yourself with food from the farmers market, it’s still going to be over a thousand dollars for most people. again, unless you only invite like five people, but most people care about more than 5 people. throwing a big party of any kind isn’t cheap unless you throw a terrible party.

you don’t have to have a traditional wedding at all though. my sister got married during COVID in her backyard on video call. it was lovely. a big beautiful wedding with lots of people is also lovely and uniquely fun. just don’t let you relatives pressure you into things you don’t want. there’s where it always goes wrong.

loose gunpowder* but yes, gunpowder actually burns very slowly. in fact, we have designed gunpowder to burn slower than old blackpowder from the musket days. it’s the containment and pressure that makes it work in a gun. but it’s also why it’s not uncommon to actually shoot some amount of unburned powder from many guns. a thing that was difficult to know or prove before high speed cameras.

lmao, even if i thought i could it’s too low res to read.

oh it’s very true! generally when a bullet enters the body the damage it does spreads out like a cone from entrance to exit as more displaced material is accelerated and the shockwave travels outward. that’s why the exit wound is generally many times larger than the entrance wound. a large enough round at a high enough velocity will start taking chunks out of people. that’s why many were concerned the m16 wouldn’t have enough stopping power when it was first being brought to the battlefield, it used a smaller round than the ak-47. it’s not about the size of the bullet, it’s about the amount of energy it can impart into the target. a heavier, wider round will create a much larger wound channel. the difference in damage done is much greater than the difference in the size of the bullet.

there are also a variety of specific types of bullets that can affect the wound created and the damage done internally. for example, in smaller, slower rounds that might struggle to create this expanding wound channel effect, they might use hollow point bullets. bullets that are made to expand and/or break apart after impact. creating a larger wound and transferring the energy of the round into the target’s organs better.

generally, you can expect that anyone using guns designed to kill humans to be able to damage an area at least 4 times the size of the bullet with every shot. often more, sometimes less. so when you think about getting shot and whether it will hit your internal organs imagine the bullets are more like softballs. because that’s the size of the exit wound they’ll create. that is why i say it’s generally unlikely that you won’t fall when shot with intent to kill. i do specifically man using a weapon of war, not a .22 backpack rifle. honestly, people get shot with small caliber handguns often enough. they probably usually don’t need to fall over. might feel like it though. i know i tend to sit down when I’m hurt badly enough.

uhh… I’m not a gun nut btw. i generally support sensible gun control and would even like to see something like Australia’s method thought about for here (America). I’m just autistic and blame mythbusters for sending me down that rabbit hole when i was younger.

clearly he lost his arms

hmmm, like they don’t do a Hollywood fall, but they do often just drop. sack of potatoes style. there’s a lot of stuff in you that could make you stop standing if it got shot. it’s not guaranteed, but depending on caliber, it can be quite likely that they will fall. just straight down or in the direction of their existing momentum usually.

i bet it’s honestly more more from like 4chan and other modern online racist communities. where they would mock aave with racist caricatures. agree with the rest, but if it’s related to aave then i doubt the old newspapers were the source.