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  • I’ve never heard of the show that was referenced. I know many Americans that have financially supported their elder parents. Basically the quality of care that their parents receive is based on how much the adult children can afford.

    I feel like some American seniors have more money than their adult children, and the children expect to receive an inheritance once their parents die.

    If someone has reasons for not financially supporting their parents, like a deeply strained relationship due to past trauma caused by the parent, I suppose I could understand that.

    But America is a big country. I’m sure there are assholes that tell their 90 year old parent to get a job when they could afford to help. But I feel like most Americans would recognize this as cruel.

    Many Americans live paycheck to paycheck, and can’t afford to give much.

    I think it’s lazy advice to tell people they can save money by not giving their family financial assistance.



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    First, I’m sorry to hear about the situation. It seems like you want the best for your brother.

    I’m a stranger on the Internet, so take what I say with a grain of salt.

    Based on what I read, I worry if you allow him to get close to you that you or your wife could be a victim of his eventually.

    Perhaps he needs guidance and structure, but I question if he is ready to accept it from you.

    If you end up wanting to help him, make certain you’re not enabling his bad habits.

    It’s a tough place to be. Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to “fix” everything.