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  • Once a day, think of one simple thing that a depressed person would not do. Do that. For some examples:

    • Take even the shortest walk around the neighborhood.
    • Read just ten pages of any book.

    Also, think of something that you do especially when depressed, and avoid doing it. For some examples:

    • Don’t watch TV
    • Don’t scroll on social media

    Sometimes habits become compulsive, you can do a lot for yourself by adding even a small amount of friction to doing those things. For some examples:

    • When I notice that I go through periods of poor sleep due to habitually reaching for my phone, I might remove the charger from my phone and put it in a living area and charge it there at night. I might prepare 8 hours of podcasts and connect my Bluetooth before bed so I can have something to take my mind off things in case wake up or cannot sleep.
    • Simply logout of social media sites, so that I’m forced to take a deliberate action to log back in to start doom scrolling again.

    For more proactive maintenance things I try to do, which are important to establish when I’m mentally in a good place, I might make a weekly list of happy chores, like make sure I talk to a family member, make sure I talk to a friend, make sure I actually see someone in person, or play a video game in a way that I’m making progress at it, or spend 10 minutes practicing an instrument.

    You need to exploit your good times to establish patterns of good habits for your hard times.







  • It’s kinda like lemmy here, but a little more pain because not only do you have to pick your provider, but you also need to be very mindful of how your key pair is managed. Like… don’t just uninstall a client without going through the effort of trusting and verifying a new one first, or you may lose the ability to decrypt a lot of history and also break trust with relationships you have.

    Security first is a major concern in the system, so it doesn’t leave a lot to the imagination unfortunately.

    That said, once you convince yourself to set it up, and convince anyone else to do the same, it works pretty nicely. It’s like an inner venn diagram of discord, telegram and IRC.








  • I can’t speak to your experience but I’ve been farting around on the Internet since the mid 90s and I promise nothing ever changes.

    Smaller communities tend to be more concise, that is true.

    But what you have here is the hand you’re dealt. Complaining isn’t going to change anything any more thank joking. You can be the change you seek here by suggesting a course of action that isn’t asking others to suggest a course of action to you. If you’re seeking a course of action, you can try asking here.

    But commenters on tech news aren’t likely to be expert activists, especially in whatever issue is your top concern.

    My best advice to you is

    • practice acceptance of reality, not as defeat but as the first step to understanding and deciding an action

    • determine how much capacity you, as a person, have to contribute to a cause

    • determine one cause you care about and can be effective at contributing to

    After doing those things, SEEK OUT like minded groups who have leadership and self discipline and are effective.