oʍʇǝuoǝnu

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  • oʍʇǝuoǝnu@lemmy.cato> Greentext@lemmy.mlMatchless in the Digital Age
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    1 year ago

    I’m not trying to discount any of your feelings or experiences, I went through this same thing for years until I met my current (and first) gf; for context I was 28 when we started going out.

    I hated hearing it when I was in your situation but it’s always been true for me, work on yourself and keep yourself open and things will eventually happen. I gave up trying to find a girlfriend when I was 27 after years of striking out irl and on dating apps and decided to focus on myself. I was starting a graduate program and got a cool public art opportunity through my city so I just put all my energy into that which helped me focus less on tinder and my lack of sex (kinda) . One day this girl I worked with dumped her loser boyfriend and after several failed attempts to ask her out (I’m bad at putting things down, she’s bad at picking things up) i finally had a date. Four years later and she’s begging me for a ring.

    Life is tough and even harder when you don’t have someone to experience it with. Again, I don’t know your situation and I don’t want to just be another asshole saying things will get better cause I fucking hate those people when I was sad and lonely, but I genuinely do believe good things come to those who wait. Keep yourself open to new experiences and listen to your gut if it’s telling you to take a chance.

    Or tell me to stfu, that’s cool too I get it and won’t be upset.






  • Public servant here, the city I live in isn’t hiring and when they do it’s extremely competitive, think 150+ applications for one position. The city I work for is an hour away and I’ve been doing the drive for two years. I can’t move closer due to lack of rentals and what is available is too expensive (I saw a 2br for 3100 this morning) and they won’t rent to me because of pets (why bother when there is someone without pets who is willing to pay 60% of their salary, less risk for your “investment”). Can’t buy because I can’t afford 600k for a starter home with how crazy interest rates are right now I would be looking at a 3k/month mortgage.

    I could try adjacent work closer to home, but there isn’t much and it would be a pay cut even accounting for gas. Also no viable transit option available unless I want to leave my house at 5 and get home at 7.

    So far I’ve been able to get 1 wfh day, 2 or 3 would be nice but I need to be in office to deal with the public.



  • You don’t understand, I have to turn left in 25 km and what if I can’t get back into my lane after I let you pass and I miss my turn. I’m not a confident driver so I am going to do what’s safest and best for me and everyone else can just accept it. I’m going fast enough at 5km over the posted speed limit and you can just slow down, life isn’t a race unless I need it to be.

    -The asshole I encounter daily on my commute.


  • oʍʇǝuoǝnu@lemmy.catoMemes@lemmy.mlsurvival optional.
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    1 year ago

    For highway lowering the speed may be effective but lowering the speed limit from 50 to 30 won’t stop drivers from going 50 unless the road is designed for lower speeds. So long as lanes are wide and there are little obstructions for drivers to worry about hitting, such as bumpouts, boulevards, etc., they will go as fast as they feel comfortable unless there is a cop behind them.

    Edit: 50kmh to 30kmh I don’t know what that is in freedom miles