Hey good for you for taking care of them. There’s nothing wrong with helping out if you’re able and willing.

In America, the older folks tend to have more money than the younger folks. So culturally speaking, we don’t really think to send money to our elders.

The first way is pensions used to be common, so older folks get that. There are also retirement accounts that people would pay into their whole working life. (These are very commonly offered and are pretty set and forget.) Cost of living used to be a lot lower too, so they also had greater opportunity to save up as they aged.

Another way is that established people tend not to have to spend as much money. If you live in your own house and have for a while, your home goods are typically handled and you only need to replenish as needed. (I’m talking things like furniture, small fixtures… Stuff that would be a pain to move or replace if you are not as established.)

Also in the United States, current working age people pay into social security, which older folks can draw from. (There are rules and exceptions, but for the most part, this is how it works.)

So here, the older folks are in a better financial position overall. (There are of course exceptions, and with their advanced age it is harder to dig themselves out.

For myself, I am doing well. But even though I’m ahead of many of my peers, I’m still not doing as well as my parents when they were my age. The cost of my schooling was much higher than that of someone that graduated 30, 20, even 10 years before me. (But it did allow me to get a very good job.) The cost of living rose quite a bit higher than wages, so I wasn’t able to save and invest like they did. I’ve had to take on second jobs to pay for healthcare. (My parents did not have to.)

I might be a bit biased though, because I was also told I would get no financial help from my parents after I became an adult. I would be far more inclined to help if they invested in my education, which would have made me be way more far ahead financially.

However, I do help my mom when I can. I visit. I help her fix things. I don’t help her financially though.

It blows my mind when people do that.

“Hey, the way that you styled yourself makes me not want to have sex with you.”

“Uhhh… Cool?”

“Sick, Sad World” from Daria

Lots of people covered other things I dislike more, so I’ll say the curved screen at edges. I liked it flat better. It also makes it so much harder to install the screen protector.

That would be a mass killing (many murders in one session) not serial killings (many murders spread out over time).

Ugh, as if.

That’s super cool! I knew a guy that would eat small ropes and pull it out his nose but… Wow that is next level. Thanks for sharing.

Definitely. It’s best to know your own limits. (Akin to dropping something too heavy before hurting yourself.)

That is definitely a thing.

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When I was on welfare, I got Medicaid. (Free health insurance from the government.) I chose the plan with no copays or deductibles. It was nice.

They had another plan where the copay was $3. I had it before I moved to the no copay plan. It’s fine, but being on welfare at the time, every dollar counted.

Now I have my employer plan and my copays range from $15 - $50, depending on the type of appointment I see. I pay about $1k/month in premiums.

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He’s on Lemmy world

What, my first dialect of German shouldn’t be epic memer?

The fella next door blasted his music at 2am for the last time.

I’m a lesbian and my partner is also partially disabled. She manages her conditions but as far as we know, it’s as good as it will get. (I have chronic issues too but I am typically mobile.)

We like to game together. We watch movies together. She also games with her friends and I go out and do other more physically demanding activities with my own friends. We like to discover new food and talk about politics.

We found that our sense of humor and morality aligns well and we enjoy each other’s company. That and the fact that she was independent drew me to her.

Good luck out there.

The sound is bad enough but with properly constructed walls, it’s not a problem.

I have other problems with shared walls. Your neighbors have cockroaches? Now you do too! Bedbugs? Yep those can come on in too. If you live in an apartment, then you bet the landlord will cheap out and not do as effective treatments. You think being clean and not keeping things in cardboard will stop them? Maybe temporarily but they’re just waiting to come back out from the walls where they weren’t treated. Joy!

The other thing is that if your neighbor smokes cigarettes inside, then you get some bonus secondhand smoke. If you have bad reactions even with allergy medications and HEPA filters, well I guess it’s time for you to move or suffer. (You didn’t want to use your PTO on anything not sick days right?)

Did your neighbors have a plumbing problem that they neglected? Congratulations on your new mold in your shared walls. (You wanted to call code enforcement on your landlord about this? Good luck, they won’t enforce it.)

I’m sure there are real solutions to my above problems but my reality is that the only solution is to move when it’s too much to bear. (Haven’t lived in one place for more than 2 years because of it…)

Getting a BS in Computer Science was huge towards my success. I had to work while in college due to lack of funds. My job as a programmer paid very little before I got my degree. Even with years of experience, I had a hard time getting a dev job with an employer that paid better without my degree. With the degree, it was significantly easier.

I’ve heard of stories of folks that “made it” in dev without a degree. I did not have the charisma or whatever other skill they had to do it…

I will say I have quite a few student loans because my scholarships weren’t enough (I was an average student at best) and my family made a lot of money but didn’t help me so I didn’t get other aid I would have normally qualified for. For me, my very well paying job outweighs the student loan payment. My gamble paid off. (It was a fairly safe gamble, but one can never really know in the uncertainty of life.)

However, even in the last few years school has gone up in price A LOT so that may change the calculations for future folks.

Why a snack and not a meal?

Just a minute.

Yes. I noticed that my shoulder hurts when I do that so I have been making an effort to stop it.