If you are talking about the best discourse, Lemmy is best, as long as you block Lemmygrad, Hexbear and Lemmy.ml.
I joined .ml way before the reddit API thing. It was one of the few available instances at the time.
Starting to feel really uncomfortable with all the hate towards it.
FLOSS developer here. My app’s UI/UX is bad, not because I am incompetent but because I prefer working for money. Its open and if you have a problem with the UI/UX feel free to pay me or change it yourself. Or just wait until I am bored and feel like doing it myself.