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  • I don’t think that article is correct.

    I’ve never understood subsequent realization to be integral to the dissonance itself, which already exists regardless of one’s awareness of it.

    It’s like insisting that you are not depressed unless you “realize” you’re depressed.

    unless by “realization” that article simply mean experiencing conflicting emotions, which is the cognitive dissonance itself.

    requiring “realization” of a feeling as a prerequisite to that feeling existing doesn’t check out.



















  • I vote bygones, leaving him be, because of the violence and what sounds like delusion.

    If he really does believe you physically abused him to that extent, I can’t see how the two of you are going to have a healthy relationship until that somehow gets resolved.

    It’s a shame he couldn’t have had a relatively less abusive childhood like you, but that doesn’t make his problems or rehabilitation your responsibility.

    If you do feel the compulsion to reach out, make sure to keep that attempted reconciliation and your everyday life completely separate.