I’ve played around a bit with Remotely (https://github.com/immense/Remotely) from what I’ve seen it’s great for when a family member needs some remote support, it also has persistent agents for some stuff. Personally for remote administration I LOVE Apache Guacamole, it’s super handy being able to use RDP/SSH/vnc/etc from a browser.
Edit: after reading the post it may not be what you’re looking for. I don’t think either of those would be good from an FPS standpoint.
Much like good old MySQL, it’s named for its creator and the last name My is pronounced ‘me’. At least that’s what I remember hearing or reading somewhere… I’m sadly too uncultured to know for sure (never made it that far around the globe).