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Living in the “self esteem” part of Maslow’s pirimid when you are battling basic needs aka allergies, sleep, dehydration, dimentia, etc is a good way to be depressed. Focus on preservation of assets and restoring basic functions.

Well unsecured consumer debt has technically no legal consequences if it is not paid unless you get permission to garnish wages from a court. Most consumer debt collectors use the “badger and harry” approach of constant phone calls to collect debt.

Secured debt will just take the collateral.

Of course try the high fico score debtors first.

Or just forgive the debt.

Well, it seems like you have a good BS detector. I would still go to chatgpt and ask for “what types of psychologist approaches are there to sadness”. It will then respond with " behavioral, cognitive, etc") then I would ask what would a therapist for each approach say to a person who “is sad, and other characteristics and circumstances of yours”. Then pick the ones that you haven’t tried or you only did halvsies the first time you tried it.

Good luck!

My dude, please get some professional help. I am religious, so if you ask me, I would point there, but seriously, you are worth it and you are at least worth the memes you post. I bet that you could grow a bunch from a place of stability, and have a pretty rad life to look forward to

Here is some other advice:

• ask chat-gpt for some exercises to help you get your brain where it should be and a timeline. Then execute. Rinse repeat

• reduce social media (including Lemmy) a good “cold turkey” break would be a cruise or something.

• obtain physically proximate friends via volunteering at a local food bank or similar nonprofit.

I was imagining a “I just wiped my hard drive and flashed the current version of Debian. Let’s get basic services up.”

I wish there was a “hey watch me code/self host” channel that helped noobs see how to approach the problem of starting. Usually their is a “hey watch me code” YouTube that is old enough to have a critical breaking point (some library updated) so a noob finds it impossible.

If you are successful in this, perhaps a twitch channel walking through the basics running on a regular ish basis

Some highly rated combat boots. Just rember to change out your socks.

He asked for a generalist site, so a site that has already been captured.

The problem with “what to buy to get started” is that that question is tantalizingly juicy to advertisers. Therefore, when a place is found it is usually captured by low quality high dollar cost advertisers (like reddit or amazon or essentially all the other sites that carry and recommend hobbiest products).

I think your best bet is to get to know a few people who actually are doing the hobby (not a advertising influencer) and see the cost points for real hobbiests.

The lack of observation has a clear effect on thoughts and behavior. There is even an English saying “when the cat is away, the mice will play”. I think that there is no such thing as " freedom of speech" or “freedom of assembly”, if a malicious actor is silent notes taking at all times.

And because harvested data goes to the rich, or the cops who care about convictions more than the truth it is a reasonable assumption in my threat model that data observation is malicious observation.

Also from a citizen development perspecrive, if your citizens are always watched, then they never develop the " moral muscle" and the only morality remains in the hands of those with the power to observe and enforce their will.

I like this take.

I have heard that their “language” is less " noun verb " and more “visualization visualization” like sign language. Would be interesting to be able to understand and articulate a thought.

I think I see where you are coming from, but I have found that expecting “falling in love” instead of intentionally choosing to love makes a relationship short term aka that lasts for a couple years max. When I don’t negotiate and choose love intentionally, a lot more of the missed expectation of “reading my mind because you love me” stuff goes on.

What does a healthy relationship look like to you?

Morally, probably yes.

Socially, the girl has more bargaining power to do some house chores and have the guy pay for room and board.

Relationships are ongoing negotiations.

There is a “extra step” to q&a sites where you generalize the tangental questions and answers into a wikihow blog post. The sites themselves aren’t able to do it gracefully, but there are several one off blog posts that are gold mines from stack overflow.

Testing controls or getting a soc1 with cuec (complimentary controls) so I know that a company is correctly running its numbers after an audit.

Frauds get caught much sooner now.

Sewage has a lot of carbon. Separate sewage like we do ewaste and store the tonnes of carbon. Let plants and other food get from the air.

Three words: adjustable space mirrors.

I like this idea!