“The rising fatality figures come one day after the public learned a teenage skateboarder had died after colliding with an SUV last week.”

There. There you have it. All the possible causes lined out in the article like inexperienced drivers obviously CAN also bei a cause, but SUVs are sure one big problem, which no one wants to acknowledge.

For example: https://www.iihs.org/news/detail/new-study-suggests-todays-suvs-are-more-lethal-to-pedestrians-than-cars

Or

https://www.lshtm.ac.uk/newsevents/news/2025/being-hit-suv-increases-likelihood-death-or-serious-injury

I guess for me there are two festivals I am looking forward to. Also…saving. My cat got really sick last winter, which did cost me a lot and now I am trying to build up my savings again. I also hope that he will pass smoothly, unfortunately the latest diagnosis for him was dire.

I would also throw Angelspit into this

I second hotpot, it’s not only fun, but also healthy.

Exactly. For me it was relatively clear the older I got, as my father had to give me pocket money and pay for my extracuricullars on top of child support. I was not eating much (smallish, lean, not really sport oriented) and was getting some new clothes maybe twice a year, one time mostly as part of my birthday present.

Ah sorry, this was an phrasing error on my side. I meant child Support! Will correct that.

Actually the plan for giving me the house included that she would move out. But she wanted to be imprecise in how I/We would pay her back for the amount she already payed for the house. Switched back and forth inbetween money and/or getting to live with us sooner or later (so basically what you say). She also did not say how much money we would then owe her and wanted to let that open specifically, which could basically result in us paying the left amount (which we should have done in her name, she wanted us to pay HER the amount every month so that then she would pay the bank) plus “rent” to her endlessly.

She somehow managed to keep the house, but struggles to this day with payments. Does not want to move in a flat, because the house has more room for possibilities and a garden. Also says I should get the house someday but it is unclear when or how this should take place. She tried to make a deal with me and my boyfriend (now husband) a while ago, but the terms on her side werde very loosley written out and had too much room for malicious intent in the long run. Also the payments are very high, because she made a bad deal in regards of the interest rates, so me and my husband also would struggle financially and we do not want a house this bad.

Actually this question comes in handy for me. I really need to acknowledge my efforts more. So let’s see:

• Called in sick today. Did not risk that for more than a year, because of anxiety to loose my job. Acknowledged today that atm I need this physically and mentally, could literally not work because of exhaustion.
• Made some really nice progress in therapy in the last few months.
• Even if I am under (in my eyes) a lot of pressure I march on.
• Other than work I take mostly good care of my health.

My mother telling me I should not think that she makes any money with me. (Backstory: Was living with her, dad paid alimony child support). I was baffled, because even when I lowkey suspected that, it was not even a relevant thing for our conversation at this time.

A few years later, when I wanted to move out for studying it was suddendly a problem, because she could not make the full payments for her house without the alimony child supprt from my dad. So I stayed.

Some more years down the line I finally wanted to move out, as I had a full time job in sight and wanted to live with my boyfriend. I was in my mid-twenties. Basically the conversation was the same as before, she could not pay for her house without me. She could not answer my question how she thought this would work out. Was she expecting me to live with her until she paid for the house? Because this would be up until my forties, maybe longer. The house is not big enough for two families, so it was never an option for me and my bf to move in. Of course I moved out.

Dawn in early Summer, in Nature. It is a mix of Petrichor, really fresh coldish air, wet grass and a hint of flowers.

I second this. Dealing with this the way she did is of course not correct and being unhappy in a relationship should not justify cheating, but nevertheless…

“The latest government data, published last month for 2023-24, showed that the number of children in poverty had risen to 4.5 million, and accounted for 31% of all children in the UK.”

So almost one third of all children in the UK live in poverty. One child out of three. This can not end well.

The sound of children playing in the woods.

Hey, thanks for this answer. I am under the impression that there is a lot of negative talk about having kids in the News/internet etc, which made me very anxious about the decision to have my own. And while I think that it’s important to vent about the difficulties of parenting, I sometimes miss people who voice the positive things about it.

Had a really bad flu, but was supposed to turn up to my first day of apprenticeship. Awkward enough to be introduced on your birthday, but I also looked and sounded like shit. Could also not relax in the evening, because my now ex had a broken collarbone and could not shower without help, so I had to drive to his flat. He had no one else to help him. Got no thanks for that.

Thank you so much for this detailed answer :)

I really want to have kids for a long time already, but just recently I got into a spot in life where it seems financially and personality-wise an option. For a long time I was aware that there still was a lot to develop in myself. I also wanted to see and do things, which came a bit short unfortunately, for said financially reasons. I am stillt super afraid of how things will turn out, if I am built for the strain, if I will love my kid(s) enough, teach them enough and at the same time if job-wise everything will work. I really worked hard for the job I now have, but it is science-related and tnerefore I will never see a contract which lasts longer than three years. But I just know that I will regret not having at least one kid.

As a person who is considering to have kids in the near future: Thanks for the insight :) Could you recommend books to read? I already got some (hopefully) good recommondations on sleep related books, but I guess this phase is over in a blink and new challenges will arrive.

I spend too much on care products, which are sometimes or even often unnecessary. I just really enjoy some nice smells and glittery things sometimes. My newest bad habit are nail stickers…